Ouch! Your Silence Hurts

Ouch! Your Silence Hurts explores the role of the bystander and encourages people to speak up against stereotypes, micro-aggressions, and other biased statements. Speak up and become an ally.

    Ouch! Your Silence Hurts

    In-Person Training


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    • Available on DVD or USB
    • Includes Leader’s Guide + Reminder Cards
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    Ouch! Your Silence Hurts

    Online Streaming Video Course

    • Best for Individual Learning minimal time
    • Quiz for immediate feedback
    • Install on your LMS or use ours

    The Ouch! Your Silence Hurts Video Streaming course is also available:

    • ¡Ay! Tu silencio duele (Spanish)

    Do you ever stand by silently when you feel you should speak up? If so, your silence hurts.

    Many people say they want to speak up when they see others stereotyped, disrespected, or demeaned. But they stand by silently because of discomfort or the fear of saying the wrong thing. They may turn away thinking “who am I to get involved, this isn’t my business.” In fact, as a bystander, you ARE part of the conversation. You are the audience. Your silence allows the disrespectful behavior to continue. Your silence hurts.

    Ouch! Your Silence Hurts challenges viewers by asking, “How will you personally respond next time you witness somebody being treated with disrespect?”

    In the Ouch! video, you’ll hear about the role of the silent bystander…. When you hear a disrespectful comment or joke, you have a choice:

    Reinforce it by laughing or joining in. Tolerate it by saying nothing, which is what most people do. Or speak up and become an ally, the hardest thing of all. You may think that by saying nothing you’re making things better, or at least not making things worse. But sometimes silence is not golden. Your silence sends a message that you agree, or at the least you don’t object. Is that the message you want to send?

    When we speak, we are afraid our words will not be heard or welcomed. But when we are silent, we are still afraid. So it is better to speak.
    Audre Lorde, Poet and Activist

    Silence remains, inescapably, a form of speech.
    Susan Sontag

    Ouch! Your Silence Hurts Learning Objectives:

    • Understand the high cost of silent collusion.
    • Explore the power of the bystander to make a difference.
    • Inspire passive bystanders to use their voice as active allies

    As Daniel Goleman writes, “saying nothing serves to condone it (bias).” Biased, stereotypical, or otherwise demeaning communication undermines morale, teamwork, and productivity. It can drive customers away, cause a public relations fiasco and worst of all, create a climate of distrust and pain in your organization. So, what can you do to speak up against stereotypes? Just say … Ouch!

    The Ouch! Your Silence Hurts program is available in these formats: 

    1. DVD or USB for your in-person training. Purchase via the dropdown menu above.
    2. Online Streaming Video course with quiz. YSCORM 1.2 course that can be installed on your LMS or you can access it on SunShower’s LMS. Licensing fees are based on the number of people to be trained and the duration of training.

    Call for a custom license proposal. You can preview this by selecting this option in the dropdown menu above.

    “The voices in the shadows was a stirring image, and the specific examples of what to say were effective. The most powerful piece of learning for me was to establish that it is better to say something that is imperfect, rather than waiting to think about the right words and saying nothing.”

    Cher, HR Professional

    “I have one word, Fabulous! This video gives real, gut-wrenching examples of individuals and situations. Most important, it challenges people and gives them the idea that they have the ability to confront stereotypes by showing them how. Ouch! Your Silence Hurts will be so helpful because most people want to do something but don’t know what or how.”

    Anita Rowe, Ph.D. Partner Gardenswartz & Rowe

    Book a Discovery Meeting with Joel Lesko

    Demo an e-Learning course, discuss your needs and goals, make a plan for your DEI Learning Journey, and we’ll provide an online course of your choice as a pre-work or post-work for up to 20 people (a value of up to $450).

    SunShower Learning’s online programs, like Ouch! Your Silence Hurts, gives your people skills they can practice to interrupt and mitigate microaggressions, stereotypes, and other expressions of bias.